YFU Switzerland

Familia número 2

Hi everyone

So I finally got to change my host family. I’ve been here since Wednesday. The family consists of the two parents, the grand-mother and three kids. A boy that’s 12 and 2 girls that are 14 and 16. It all happened very fast, so I think wether the family nor I were really ready for it yet. The family comes from the middle class, just like most people in Ecuador and they own a little company, that sells wood. The “fabric” is right behind the house, so during the daytime you can always hear the electrical saws.

My new home from the front

My new home from the front

The "fabrical" part

The “fabrical” part

Behind the house

Behind the house

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We live outside of the city centre, but still in Portoviejo. I have my own room, what I find really great. It sadly doesn’t have windows, so it gets hot quite fast when I don’t put on air condition. I’ve already decorated it with photos and I spend most of the day there. It’s quite sad, that my host family members spend all day in their rooms, sleeping, doing homework, watching TV or just being on the phone. I’ve tried going into my host sister’s room sometimes and talk a bit, but I notice that she doesn’t really feel like talking, so the conversation usually ends very fast. So then I just go into my room again, converse with my people at home, watch TV-series or read. Those things also distract me from the upcoming homesickness. Always when I feel like I just want to curl up in bed and cry, I read. Because like that I can concentrate on another story than my own.

A little "garden" in front of the house

A little “garden” in front of the house

The view from my room

The view from my room

My room with a big bed

My room with a big bed

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There also live some dogs on the area. But there’s no one looking after them. My host sister even hits them when they get too close to her. That really hurts me to see, so sometimes I go outside and sit dowm to pet them or play with them for a while. Becuase they are really cute and friendly dogs that deserve attention.

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So now to how I feel here:

I really had hoped very much to come to a typical, host friendly and open ecuadorian family. Just like the ones I got to know in Machala. Well, sadly that wish didn’t come true. I really am thankful for the family to take me and I’m sure they are very nice people, but I don’t feel very welcome here. My host siblings find it really cool to have a swiss sister. They want to take photos with me all the time and show me to everyone and walk through the streets with me so everyone can see they know me. But my host parents don’t talk to me at all. My host father went to the US for a week on saturday and I haven’t talked to him at all, and my host mom I nearly see. I don’t think they really understand what a host family is meant to be, because no one told them. YFU hasn’t had a lot of contact with them. But I don’t think they are like that only towards me. For them it’s just normal to sit in their room all day and not talk to each other a lot. This is quite difficult for me, because like that I miss my caring family at home even more. What I miss the most is the feeling of being welcome and appreciated and that someone cares about that I’m there. But I’m trying my best. I start talking to my host mother or grandma even though they usually don’t continue the conversation. I try to integrate myself in the conversations of my host sisters and I try to do everything right. I hope I will feel more welcome here soon. Because at the moment I’m not even sure if the change brought me anything unless extra stress through the new surroundings. But I will try my best ,even though I often feel without energy, and wait…

My host sister Gema

My host sister Gema and me

me with my host siblings

me with my host siblings

We went to the movies

We went to the movies

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On sunday we went to the beach, that was nice but I didn’t have time to put on sunscreen because all went very fast, so now I’ve got a bad sunburn.

That’s it for now. I hope I can tell more happy things in my next blog. Maybe I just have to get used to everything.

Un beso de Ecuador and I miss you all very much.